Genesis 24:51-53 (NKJV)
” ‘Here is Rebekah before you; take her and go, and let her be your master’s son’s wife, as the Lord has spoken.’ And it came to pass, when Abraham’s servant heard their words…Then the servant brought out jewelry of silver, jewelry of gold, and clothing, and gave them to Rebekah. He also gave precious things to her brother and to her mother.”
Here are three protocols to marriage. Marriage must be anchored on the Word of God. Nobody should get married just because he loves someone. God needs to play an active role in the entire process. It was clear that the hand of the Lord was leading Abraham’s servant to Rebekah and Rebekah’s family acknowledged this when they heard the account of the events.
Marriage must not be an opportunity for making wealth. Rebekah’s family did not ask for anything but permitted the servant to take Rebekah because the Lord had spoken. It’s not wrong to request for dowry but making dowry a pathway to personal enrichment is selling your daughter into slavery.
Marriage requires a payment of some sort to the bride and the family. The extent of your love for the girl within the limitations of your resources should guide your giving. Give extravagantly if you have the means. Give in love. Give in gratitude. But don’t borrow to give as that is falsehood.
“Lord, help our children and young people to marry correctly. Assist them in choosing their spouses after they have heard the voice of God. And help us, parents, not to transform our children into cash machines for personal enrichment. This I pray, in Jesus’ name. Amen.”